When the Ego takes over

How can we tell if the Ego is taking over? There are signs.  We become judgmental, we make others wrong, we become someone's victim, we get hurt and we hurt others.

Ego is a necessary body for existence on Earth and this article is not about "getting rid of it", "killing it" or anything of the sort. But it is about not letting it take over our existence.

Signs that the ego is taking over:

We make others wrong

"You are wrong about that, it doesn't work that way."
"No, that's not it at all."
"If you do that you are a fool."
"NO, you have not had a good life, you've had a shitty life, a horrifying life. A life fool of hardship. That's not a good life."

When we make others wrong, we shrink their being. It is a way we cut them down and destroy them.  Make someone wrong enough times and they will become depressed or worse.

It is our EGO that expects to be expected, accepted, welcomed and loved.  It is our EGO that looks for validation, approval and admiration. It is our EGO that expects to find something out there, in another person, that we should be looking for inside ourselves.  But when we do this, we give away too much POWER.

DON'T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER, and don't get so attached to your own TRUTHS that you can't see other people's truths, which are just as valid.  But don't push others away to protect yourself.  We are here to interact, to communicate, to experience closeness, friendships, love, connection.

Anything that shrinks our awareness, due to judgment, hurt feelings, accommodating others rather than being ourselves, second guessing ourselves, making others wrong, feeling important, and more, is most likely the ego taking over.

Strive for humbleness, openness of spirit, make yourself vulnerable, and allow life to teach you to grow, expand and ascend to your next level of awareness.  Never become so invulnerable that no one can hurt your feelings or show you where you need to work in order to expand even more.

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas From Edith.

Horoscope

Short Report - Forecast December 2012 to May 2013

for Edit Mezei (female)

born on 16 February 1962	local time:	4:00 am
in Hódmezövásárhely, HUN	U.T.:	03:00
20e20, 46n25	sid. time:	14:03:51

Planetary positions

planet	sign	degree		motion
Sun	Aquarius	26°57'49	in house 2	direct
Moon	Cancer	19°22'08	in house 7	direct
Mercury	Aquarius	7°26'19	in house 1	retrograde
Venus	Pisces	1°42'53	in house 2	direct
Mars	Aquarius	11°01'49	in house 1	direct
Jupiter	Aquarius	21°16'31	in house 2	direct
Saturn	Aquarius	5°05'28	in house 1	direct
Uranus	Leo	28°33'57	in house 8	retrograde
Neptune	Scorpio	13°29'25	in house 10	stationary (R)
Pluto	Virgo	9°09'14	in house 8	retrograde
True Node	Leo	18°03'52	in house 8	direct

House positions (Placidus)

Ascendant	Capricorn	3°36'12
2nd House	Aquarius	17°01'57
3rd House	Aries	1°14'09
Imum Coeli	Taurus	3°10'54
5th House	Taurus	26°05'39
6th House	Gemini	14°57'37
Descendant	Cancer	3°36'12
8th House	Leo	17°01'57
9th House	Libra	1°14'09
Medium Coeli	Scorpio	3°10'54
11th House	Scorpio	26°05'39
12th House	Sagittarius	14°57'37

Transits

Pluto trine Pluto	End of January 2012 until end of November 2013
Jupiter trine Mercury	Mid-July 2012 until beginning of March 2013
Jupiter square Pluto	Mid-July 2012 until end of March 2013
Saturn square Saturn	Beginning of November 2012 until mid-August 2013
Saturn square Mercury	End of November 2012 until mid-September 2013
Jupiter trine Jupiter	From 14 May 2013 until 23 May 2013

Pluto trine Pluto: Up to you

End of January 2012 until end of November 2013: This is a period of stability, in which very deep and perseverant energies lend themselves to you. Whether you make use of them or not is completely up to you. However, if you do decide to use them, there will be potential for inner growth. From this position you can gain deep insights into the functioning of your psyche which might have shocked you at other times.

This is a time for simplification and for finding out what is really meaningful to you. It is a period when you are not only able to, but should, make changes. It is a time when you are able to eliminate the old and outworn elements of your life with relative ease because there will be little in the way. It may even seem so easy that you are not aware of its being an issue, but you should not rest on your laurels. Take an inventory of your life, your friendships, your possessions and other attachments and involvements. See which of these support you and at the minimum allow you to grow. These should be preserved. But do not struggle to preserve anything that does not serve you, especially if it seems to want to pass away. This is most important, because whatever you do not eliminate from your life now that does not serve you could become a cause of difficulty during more stressful times that may come along later.

Jupiter trine Mercury: Intelligent plans

Mid-July 2012 until beginning of March 2013: This is not a time when you should wait for things to come to you. But you can do quite well with it if you communicate with people, look for opportunities, especially in business, and look for good items to buy or sell. This influence confers the ability to see events clearly and to make plans intelligently, which will serve you well in any of these matters.

You are able to put yourself across with confidence and warmth, which will make other people believe you. They will also respect your sincerity and the clarity with which you communicate your ideas. Even if you tell someone something he or she doesn't want to hear, you can do it so that the other person will feel good about you for saying it.

This is an excellent time to take up the study of a new subject, and the more abstract the better. But you also have the ability now to translate abstract ideas into practical reality, which can be very useful in organizing and planning your activities in any sphere of life.

On the psychological level you can expect a period of optimism and positive thinking, fortunately based on reality. You have big ideas, but you have the basic sense to understand what can and cannot be done. This contributes greatly to your effectiveness at this time.

Jupiter square Pluto: In a tight spot

Mid-July 2012 until end of March 2013: This influence can have the effect of arousing your ambition to achieve great things. You feel as if your energies could carry you higher and farther than usual, and you are willing to strive for power and success. But your efforts may run into considerable resistance from others, especially if you are not completely scrupulous about your methods. This time can bring you success and social standing, but it also can deprive you of these. Instead of gaining power, you may simply provoke conflict with those who are in power, sometimes quite innocently. You may have no intention of challenging anyone, yet you find yourself in a tight spot with the authorities.

Another manifestation of this energy is that you may become involved with a project to repair or rebuild something. It might be physical property, a neighborhood or a more abstract matter, such as reorganizing or reforming a government, business or other institution. Your aim is to improve, but here again you may encounter opposition from people who do not agree with your ideas or who feel threatened by your actions.

You must avoid becoming obsessed with any plan or course of action, and be particularly ready to reexamine your ideas of right or wrong in any matter. Stand up for what you believe is right, but first make sure that you are right. This influence sometimes can make you feel convinced of a point of view that is actually shaky. You should look at religious, philosophical or metaphysical views very closely. If you wish to lead others to enlightenment, first make very certain of the quality of your own.

In some cases this influence can lead to legal conflicts, and you should be very sure that any legal matter you are involved in is strictly legitimate. Avoid underworld or shady persons in any matter.

Saturn square Saturn: Soul-searching

Beginning of November 2012 until mid-August 2013: This is a critical period in which several aspects of your life and experience will be tested, especially those that began to be important about seven years ago. Most often this influence is experienced as a sort of identity crisis in which you begin to question what you are doing. You may suffer a crisis of confidence at this time, fearing that you have made the wrong moves in life or committed yourself to some course of action that will not be good in the long run. During this period you will think about and question all the long-term trends in your life. You will not be thinking about trivial matters.

Sometimes a particular event triggers off this period of soul-searching. Others may create difficulties for you, especially in your business or professional area. Perhaps they detect the first signs of insecurity that will afflict you during this period. If they are people who naturally compete with you, they may try to take advantage of your apparent weakness. Employers and other superiors may also sense your feelings of insecurity and wonder whether you are the right person for the job you are doing.

You must recognize that some aspects of your life need to be questioned at this time. But don't stand in one spot quivering about your life. Examine it and make whatever changes are possible and seem appropriate. Any project you started seven years ago or any new aspect of yourself that first surfaced then that is truly worth continuing will still be worthwhile after this period. This is a time of testing, and anything that withstands the test will be better for it. Things that do not pass the test are well got rid of. Shortly you will enter a period of stability and fruitfulness that will justify the events that take place now. In fact, if you are truly conscious of your life and your objectives, you will not undergo a real crisis at all. You will only go through a period of examining what is working and what is not. Your difficulties with the outer world at this time are signals about what you should be doing.

Saturn square Mercury: The wood for the trees

End of November 2012 until mid-September 2013: This can be a time of difficulties in communicating with others and of problems arising from a serious conflict of viewpoints. During this time your ideas and opinions, as well as your ways of communicating with people, will be seriously challenged by others. Disagreements may lead you to sever relationships or at least to consider doing so. You may feel gloomy, depressed and worried because people do not seem to share your ideas. This makes you feel alone, and at the same time you may withdraw from communicating with others. Therefore this is usually a poor time to make any decisions unless you have to. In your present frame of mind you are incapable of seeing the whole picture upon which any decision must be based. Also your tendency toward pessimism makes you underestimate the real possibilities.

Instead of withdrawing from intellectual conflict with others, you should try to recognize the sources of conflict and help everyone clarify the problems. The differences between you and others are real. Your ideas are fixed and clear enough that others may feel called upon to challenge them. You are in the position of having to defend and justify to others what you believe and think.

It may be that your thinking has become too rigid over the last several years. Challenges by other people can force you to examine your ideas and opinions to see whether they are broad enough to encompass your experience. If you discover that they are not, this should be a time of radical mental reconstruction. If you do not succeed in incorporating other people's challenges into your idea structure and instead just ignore them, you will undergo a much more serious period of mental confusion and readjustment in about seven years.

Jupiter trine Jupiter: An opportunity

From 14 May 2013 until 23 May 2013: This influence usually represents a time of optimism and positive thinking in your life. You seem to be at a quiet point of balance that enables you to look over the affairs of your life and get a good perspective on them. Therefore, it is a good time to make long-range plans and to reorganize. You should use this time to gain new perspectives through education or travel or by participating in one of the consciousness raising activities or groups that exist now.

This is a time of psychological and physical equilibrium. If you have recently been ill in either body or mind, this influence will help tremendously with the healing process.

This is also a good time to examine your ideals and your goals, for it may be possible to actualize them in various ways now. At other times there is too much tension in your life or too much resistance from others. If you are involved in any movement for reform, now is a good time to take some positive action. Or you might become more involved in religion or philosophy, because you need to know much that is beyond the apparent order of things.

It is quite possible that you will do nothing during this time, because it gives you a feeling of balance but no drive to do anything in particular. You have an unusual sense of ease and relaxation now. This is also a good time to travel, both for relaxation and for educational reasons.

The important point to remember with this influence is that it is fundamentally an opportunity. You will not feel driven by any energies, nor will you feel any resistance to your efforts to do something. You can make great use of this time, but you have to take the initiative.